Messy. Divided. Broken.
As I look around, I see so much pain. So much hurt. So much brokenness. So much division.
And yet, I can’t help but think, in the midst of our fractured society, we all are living in the midst of a broken world. And it’s painful – for all of us.
The Avett Brothers put it this way:
“And I hate to say it but the way it seems is that no one is fine
Take the time to peel a few layers and you will find true sadness”
We all are broken. Not one of us escapes this world without pain, hurt, loss. It looks different for different people.
Sometimes it’s uncontrolled weeping.
But often, it’s disguised. Behind anger. Behind a smile. Behind social media posts trying to prove to the world – and maybe more importantly ourselves – that we have everything together. This is damaging our mental health and our relationships.
Because, underneath it all, none of us really have it all together. We all have good and bad days, weeks, months, and even years (did the Friends theme song pop into your head too? 😂).
We need to admit this more often than we do, maybe not on social media for the world to see the details, but to ourselves and those close to us.
I had always found this difficult, slow to peel my layers for others to see underneath. I value those who have made it safe for me to do so.
Some peeled layers quickly, helping me to see myself better in a short period of time. Others are still helping me to peel away the layers. Each one showed me it was safe to be me, to show my pain and hurts. Like in the story of the Velveteen Rabbit, their love is helping me to become real.
And it’s gotten easier to shed layers over the years. I feel less shame and less need to hide. I don’t go around baring the details of my soul for everyone. But there are fewer layers than before. And it’s getting easier to let others see underneath.