I know you like to think that what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. And there’s truth in that thinking. You are resilient, you are strong. But there’s a danger in that thinking too. Don’t use platitudes as an excuse to skip pain and grief. And remember there are times that giving up is the strong thing. You don’t need to bear all of the pain just to show the world you can. 

Some people will tell you all of the things you should and shouldn’t do. You will listen intently, mentally taking notes. You will try to live by the rules they told you, try to live by their rules. And there’s good in that. There is comfort in structure, in knowing what’s expected of you. But don’t get stuck there. This is your life, not theirs. You are meant to find your own way, to pave your own path. Nobody has all the answers – especially those who think they do. 

I know you will hear people tell you that you should be the main character of your own story. And there’s room for that. There are times it’s important to prioritize your story. But don’t forget that the world is bigger than you. There are times when it’s important to focus on your role as a supporting character. And don’t get caught up in thinking you’re the hero all the time. You will play countless roles throughout your life – sidekick, love interest, villain, and confidant – and all of them will bring meaning to your story.  And this is not only true of you – this is true of everyone you encounter. There is a rich tapestry of a story in it all. We weave in and out of each others’ lives. Sometimes we leave things brighter. Other times we leave things darker. We always leave a mark, so take care with each person you encounter. 

Some people want to look on the bright side all the time. Not only do they wear rose colored glasses, but they try to place them on the faces of everyone they encounter. These people mean well, but they can be draining to be around. It’s tiring to wear a happy face mask over your true feelings. So find people who aren’t afraid to see the real, messy you. The ones who know that life isn’t always easy. The ones who have had a bad day or two. The ones who have loved and lost. The ones who hold onto hope but aren’t afraid to break down in tears of heartache.